How To Speak Your Partners Love Language

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In the intricate dance of love, communication is the melody that orchestrates harmony. Just as each person has a unique rhythm, so too do they possess a distinct love language – a way they express and receive love. Understanding and speaking your partner’s love language is the key to unlocking a deeper connection and fostering a relationship that resonates with love and fulfillment. In this blog, we embark on a journey to explore the art of speaking your partner’s love language, offering insights, practical tips, and heartfelt advice to enrich your relationship and create a love story that sings in perfect harmony.

How To speak Your partners love language

The first step in speaking your partner’s love language is understanding just what the love languages are. Communication is one of the deeper ways we connect with our partners which is why understanding each other’s love language can better open your hearts and mind to the other’s perspective.

The 5 Love Languages are a great tool to use to better understand how your partner feels loved as well as allowing you to express how you give love.

My fiances and I’s relationship changed immensely, for the good of course once we understood each other’s love languages.

For example, he is a physical touch giver and receiver whereas I am a quality time giver and receiver. So you can see where each was lacking in feeling loved by the other just because we each have different ways we feel love and how we give love. When he was loving up on my body and I was giving him my undivided attention we both felt LOVED but not at 100% capacity. If that makes sense.

I promise you that understanding and utilizing the 5 Love Languages will change your relationship. Knowing how to speak your love language can even make a difference in your self-care routine!

I have a what is my self-love language quiz paired with my self-love day ideas you can check out here. 

What are the 5 love languages?

The 5 love languages are the ways we all express and receive love. Knowing both your and your partner’s love language can allow your relationship to strengthen and climb to new heights.

Don’t get me wrong you can have a perfectly fine relationship now and still have lasting effects of knowing your partner’s love language. My fiance and I had a great relationship before we even heard about the love languages. But now our relationship was able to grow even more and we were able to create a stronger connection and understanding of each other.

Whether you need a different way to understand each other or you just want to grow your love stronger the 5 love languages are the guide to everlasting communication and connection.

Now, what exactly are the specific love languages? Once you know each love language and how to speak each one you can begin to have a stronger connection with your partner. Here are the 5 love languages.

1. Physical Touch
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Quality Time
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Acts of Service

Physical Touch

The physical touch love language is pretty self-explanatory as the name sounds. People with this love language feel loved most by physical connection. Such as touching and being physically close like hand holding, kissing, massages, and yes of course sex. People with the physical touch love language feel deeply connected and trust more freely when they can share embraces and gentle caresses with the one they love.

Words of Affirmation

Words of affirmation are the compliment love language. People with this love language like to receive not only compliments but validation and support from their loved one. This can come in different forms such as verbal, letters, or text messages. If your honey has this love language words speak louder than actions to them and is important to take note of you could be doing all you can to “show” your love but if they don’t “hear” it chances are they are feeling less loved than you think!

Quality Time

If you or your boo feels the most love by spending uninterrupted and undivided quality time with you then their love language is quality time. Quality time can show in many forms like going for a walk together or having a date night or can be as simple as eating dinner with no cellphones or having a conversation face to face without the TV in the background. Does your sweetcheeks feel the most connected when you are giving them your full attention then quality time is their love language.

Receiving Gifts

Does it seem like Christmas always has to come for your honey or else they don’t feel special or loved? Then they might just have to receive gifts as their love language. Now don’t get me wrong here I am not saying people who have receiving gifts as their love language are needy, we all like to receive a little something here and there. Only people with these love languages feel a stronger connection through receiving a thoughtful gift. Such as stopping at the gas station and picking up their favorite snack or seeing something they would like through a downtown window. This love language doesn’t have to be spontaneous and grandiose, meaningful and small thoughtful gifts that say I was thinking of you or was paying attention to your favorite drink can make a world of a difference.

Acts of Service

Acts of service love language receivers feel the most connected through thoughtful gestures such as taking out the trash for them or cleaning up the house while they are out running errands, heck even just offering to run the errands for them too is all it has to take to feel love and appreciated for these individuals. Giving them a massage after a stressful day or even watching the kids so they can take a bath or have some me time can be the best thing in the world.

Speaking the 5 love languages

Now that we have gone over each love language and more about them it is time to see how you can speak each of these love languages to your special someone to strengthen your connection and elevate your relationship. Speaking your partner’s love language doesn’t have to be hard all it takes is some open and honest communication of what you both want. You can even take a love language quiz here.

WHAT IS MY LOVE LANGUAGE 

It is super beneficial and insightful to know your and your partner’s love language. Don’t miss out on taking your relationship to a higher level! It can also be beneficial to read the 5 love languages book together.

Physical Touch

Snuggle with them and hold them tight.

Kiss them when you leave and get home from work AND randomly throughout the day or night unexpectedly.

Massage their body or touch them gently on their leg while you are talking or out in public. Such as public displays of affection such as hand holding, light kissing, arms around their back, and a gentle leg caress.

Play with their hair or do their hair for them.

Shower together, non sexually if it advances it does but that’s not the point… 🤷😝

Play wrestle or tickle fight!

Have your arm around them while watching a movie or reading a book.

Words of Affirmation

Write an inspiring note for them and leave it in their lunch or purse.

Try to say thank you more often and how much you appreciate them doing x,y,z for you.

Call them randomly to check in and tell them how much you love them.

Have a deep conversation together.

Answer in a positive tone, check to see how harshly you respond.

Try not to be as critical of them.

Talk about them to your friends and coworkers while they are there, and talk them up and all of their accomplishments.

Compliment them on something that gets noticed such as if they did their hair differently or smell good.

Quality Time

Go for a walk or date uninterrupted by cellphones, the news, TV, etc.

Watch BOTH of your favorite tv show together.

Cook a delicious meal together and BOTH do the dishes.

Take a road trip somewhere you both have wanted to go.

Read a book or a bible verse together and talk about it.

Do a workout together.

Run errands and have a shopping date together.

If you are long distance have a date and time you always meet without any interruptions and always ensure you are on time for your meeting date.

Tell your friends you are spending the weekend together if you normally go out or at least give up a Friday night to stay in together.

Receiving Gifts

If long-distance send a care package of all of their favorite things and stuff that reminds you of them or dates you’ve had.

Gift them with an out-of-town vacation or spa day/ golfing trip.

Leave a special gift in their car or bedroom for them to find.

Create a treasure/scavenger hunt with a special prize at the end.

Gift them something they have been talking about recently ie. getting their hair done, trying a new restaurant, new clothes etc.

Buy them flowers or something that would say you were thinking of them.

Create a playlist of all their favorite songs and ones that remind you of your love.

Put together a self care basket for them if you know they’ve been having a rough week with everything they could want.

Acts of Service

If they normally take the trash out try doing it for once without them telling you to or complaining about it.

Fill their car up with gas if you happen to take it our for something.

Ask them what you can do for them or tell them “today I will do XYZ for you.”

Run errands fro them or wash their car.

Make a sacrifice of something you want to do or TV watching time to help them out with something.

Make their lunch or their favorite dinner and surprise them with a relaxing evening.

Book some time so they can enjoy their favorite hobbies without interruptions.

Make the bed in the morning if it’s something they always do.

Try starting their coffee for them if you leave for work earlier that way it’s all ready when they wake up.

How to speak your partner’s love language

We went over what exactly the love languages are and examples of different things you could do to ensure you are speaking their love language right.

Remember to take the quiz if you don’t already know what your love languages are trust me it only takes a minute and is well worth it to start building a stronger relationship.

Remember speaking your partner’s love language doesn’t have to be grand gestured or anything think small thoughtful things that would speak to them and make their day.

My fiance and I don’t do exactly grand gestures but now that we know each of our love languages we can connect on a deeper level. He now knows that I don’t always feel the most love when he is always kissing or hugging me or slapping my butt. Yeah, it’s nice but for me, I need uninterrupted time to do things together or just to have a nice conversation.

And vice versa I now know that he doesn’t always need the uninterrupted quality time to feel closets to me but through hugging and kissing and doing the deed once in a while is where he feels the most loved.

Being able to recognize our differences in how we give and receive love has made us more aware of each other and has allowed us to truly work on speaking our partner’s love language more creating an elevated connection and relationship!

Remember to start small and just communicate with your partner what they want and need.

Don’t forget to pick up your copy of The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman! You will see wonderful improvements if you implement his studies!

I wish you all luck on your relationship journey!😊❤️️ Sending you all clarity and peaceful communication to see your relationship shine!