5 Must Know Relationship Red Flags

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Going into a new relationship can almost feel like you are headed out on a rowboat into the vast ocean. There will be waves, and storms that come your way but there also can be clear skies and calm seas. To stay afloat you need certain tools and equipment in your boat such as rope, a flare, a liferaft, fishing string and hooks, etc. Knowing the warning signs of red flags in a relationship is almost like having your guidebook or map open on your boat to help navigate your journey.
Knowing red flags early can help ensure you are wary when the water starts to look choppy. Sometimes red flags are sudden other times they start small and slowly build and build until you feel like you cannot escape.

5 must must-know red flags in a relationship

Going into a relationship you never would guess that the guy you are pursuing would show signs of red flags. Believe me, I’ve been there, and have gone back and forth within a toxic relationship (which is a story for another time). Whether or not you expect red flags it is always good to know the signs of relationship red flags before they happen that way you are better prepared.
That is why I have created this post so you know relationship red flags before they appear!

Red flags in a relationship

Dishonesty

One of the first red flags to watch for in your man is dishonesty. Now I don’t mean little white lies to spare your feelings or surprise you. What I do mean is chronic lying and deceiving you over and over. Relationships are based on trust and open communication which is definitely not done by keeping secrets.
I wish I could give you exact signs to look out for when someone is lying but usually, you just have that gut feeling that they are not being 100% truthful or are hiding things from you period!

Conflict immaturity

This may also be a HUGE warning sign I wish I would’ve paid more attention to in my past relationship. Conflict immaturity should be a big warning bell ringing in your ears🚨 Does he call you names or belittle you any time a conflict arises or have anger outbursts and blame you even if all the fault is clearly on him? This would be a sign of immaturity and either needs to be addressed and he needs to right his wrongs or move on sister because it is not worth all of your pain and suffering from his childishness.

Isolation

Anyone who tries to isolate you from your friends or family and wants all of your attention constantly is a red flag. At the start, it seems all cute and romantic for him to want to spend every second with you and constantly check in on you. But trust me, that turns into wanting to isolate you from pursuing your interest and turns into stalking and keeping you for himself. This is a warning sign I would not overlook although it is easy to do when you first start dating. That’s why it is important to know these red flags as soon as possible.

Breaking boundaries

I should’ve walked away as soon as my past boyfriend kept pushing me to do things I didn’t want to do and after he broke the physical boundaries I had in place. Do not do as I did and don’t overlook the boundaries you set. Whether those are financial, physical, or emotional each boundary needs to be honored and respected in a healthy relationship. You never want to be with someone who doesn’t hear you or respect your wishes.

Are you in a healthy relationship?

It is important to assess your relationship at every milestone whether you have only been together a couple of weeks, a few months, or 10 years it is always smart to ask yourself these questions to determine if you are free of red flags.
Being ignorant is one of the worst things you could ever do to yourself and I say that out of love after being there myself all too many times!
It is time to stop living in the fog grab your flashlight from your boat and sail through the storm.

Healthy questions to ask yourself
Can I tell them how I feel without them getting upset or shifting blame?
Am I free to be myself around them?
Do I trust the person I am with wholeheartedly?
Am I free to do my own things/hobbies?
Does my partner support me?
Are we both at equal power in our relationship?
Do I feel good about myself when I am with them?
Do we communicate in a healthy way?

Although only a few questions, they can make a big difference in your outlook on your relationship. Again these are good questions to ask no matter where you are at in your relationship. It is never to late to see if you are truly in a loving and happy relationship!

How to leave a relationship on good terms

It never feels good leaving a relationship. Even the toxic ones can have a hold on you that lingers for a while.
I do have to say though leaving a relationship that has red flags can be done so maturely and healthily.
*Please note if you ever feel unsafe it is important to talk to your loved ones and support system as well as a trained professional in this field. 

TIP #1

First, you need to acknowledge your own needs and have your amount of self-awareness and respect to know you deserve love and happiness. Acknowledging your own needs can help build your foundation of courage to speak up for yourself. Know that there is nothing wrong with you for wanting to be treated fairly and for wanting out of your relationship.

TIP #2

You must also communicate with your partner about their actions. They may not even know they are doing the things they are doing.   On the other hand, if you talk with them and express your needs and they handle it by belittling you then you must take the information that was provided to you and get your butt outta there.

Tip #3

Remain as kind and calm as possible. With breakups, it can be easy to start a fight and want to storm out. In some cases that might be what you have to do to get the point across but for the most part, try to remain civil.

TIP #4

The most important part is to seek professional help if you need it. If you feel so shackled down and so manipulated that you see no way out without causing even more harm and pain then please seek professional guidance to help you through this difficult time!

Please, do not hesitate to reach out to your support system. You always need your people to help stand by you in difficult times, especially when leaving a relationship.

I hope this post has been most beneficial in helping you know more about the red flag warning signs in a relationship.
Please learn from my past mistakes and do NOT ignore these signs as I once did. That led me down one of the darkest paths I have ever been on in my life.

This post has been all about relationship red flags and what warning signs to look out for! Stay tuned for more of my toxic relationship journey and how I healed from narcissistic abuse! 

I wish you all the joy and happiness in the world!
-Lots of love,
Miranda❤️️